Sunday, December 02, 2007

A bee in my bonnet

I just have to voice this real quick so I can get on with my day. I actually had the idea for this post last night, but after speaking with someone today, it brought it home for me.

What makes a woman successful? Well to most it looks something like this. You go to school (PS) graduate, go to college, graduate, have a career, get married if you want, have children if you feel like it, but just know that your career comes first, so don't jeopardize that. You must also be stable financially, with a nice house, good cars, etc. If you are famous or well known or know someone who is that is an added bonus. Never be weak, and if you are by all means never show it. You must be strong, even stronger than a man, and don't ever create a situation for yourself where you have to depend on one. Lastly and most importantly take care of yourself, you come first!

So I can raise someone else's kids and that's acceptable, but to stay home and raise my own is being lazy. I can teach other peoples kids, but to teach my own is second class. Staying home and cleaning my home on a daily basis is less acceptable in the eyes of most as going out and cleaning others homes for a salary. I should go to work for someone else's husband, not stay home and take care of the affairs of my own husband?

hmmm, yep....doesn't make much sense to me either.

that darn bee...its still in my bonnet! Shew bee...shew!


Sarah said...

I totally agree. My finance is convinced that he can't provide enough financially for me not to work when we have children. So I am going back to school to be a nurse so I can work less shifts a week (12 hrs shift for a 1-2 days)and schedule them for when he is home so the children aren't raised by someone else. I'm still trying to talk him into the homeschooling :) plenty of time for that though.

motherofmany said...

AMEN, sister!!!!

Elise said...

That bee speaks the truth. I love this post, Audrey. When I am reminded of these things, since I haven't been faced with them directly (meaning someone saying those kinds of things to my face) it solidifies my position, and reminds that what I do *is* so important!
Thanks, friend!

motherofmany said...

Didn't see an email link, so I'll just send ti to you this way.

Happy Hanukkah!

Oh that there were such an heart in them, that they would fear me, and keep all my commandments always, that it might be well with them, and with their children for ever! Duet 5:29